My Tights Summer
by Kaj
After their holidays and finally back to school, pupils are asked to write school essays about their summer events and activities. Soon back to work, I also sum up the highlights of my five weeks' holiday. I call it ‘My tights summer’.
The weather in Finland has been changeable and compared to last year this has been a very cold and wet summer. This has caused some troubles and disappointments for the family’s holiday plans but it has had some nice advantages: This year I did not have to abandon my tights for the summer season.
For a month ago my dear wife, Mrs Kaj, bought me a pair of capri shorts. Until recently I have avoided showing off my tights in public. At home, among my family members, relatives and friends it is a totally natural thing to wear tights with shorts. In a domestic milieu you can exist on your own terms, but in the streets and shops it has been different.
I am not a shy person, but the few times I have combined shorts with tights when going to the shop, for instance, I have in one way or another felt uncomfortable. But at the same time when I first time saw my mirror image posing in my new shorts I realized that this was something that I should have experienced a long time ago. Capri shorts combined with a pair of sheer nude or suntan coloured tights with or without ankle socks leaving some 15-20 cm of the nylon fabric visible was a fantastic solution that should be tested in practice.
First I went shopping at the local countryside food market where I usually meet many friends and acquaintances. The experience was a total non-event, no one was interested in what I was wearing. Encouraged by this I went further on wearing this dress in different situations, for example together with my family shopping at a large department store or at an amusement park, different restaurants, during visits at our friends’ summer houses, at supermarkets etc. Suddenly I realized that I could even wear shorter knee length shorts without being embarrassed. No one has neither commented nor expressed their doubts.
At the same time I started to wonder why it is so important for me (and so many other tights wearing men) to wear tights in public. Why it is not enough wear them at home privately? Is it just to dress up in such clothes in which you feel most comfortable? Or does it have some more profound connotations, to gain acceptance, to get turned on or for excitement, for medical reasons, to stretch your own and the society’s limits, to change the male dress code or even fashion? I haven’t any clear-cut answers, only some vague assumptions.
During this summer I also participated in theatre activities. The play told about Finland just after the Second World War when the state had to rent a specific territory, Porkkala, located 30-50 kilometres westwards from the capital Helsinki for a Soviet Union army base for 12 years. The play brought up the Finnish citizens’ and the new Russian inhabitants’ destinies, feelings and wishes. The theatre took place under open-air and temperature at rehearsals was abnormal low. Naturally I wore tights under my jeans. I was acting a Soviet officer.
Some days before the premiere the costume lady. Mrs S., suddenly appeared bringing the actors’ clothes with her. I was totally unprepared and found the situation very interesting when the lady ordered me to unfold my civil clothes and dress up in my stylish Soviet uniform. The only thing that I could do was to inform her that this was probably the first time she’d see a man in tights. She laughed and said that she had always wanted to see a man dressed up in nylons. I said that I was serious, I wasn’t joking.
So I removed my jeans and revealed my sheer suntans. She said ‘Wow, you ARE wearing tights, cool!’ I explained that the weather required such undergarments, but that was only part of the story: tights were also for me a fetish and a lifestyle. She said that I didn’t owe her any explanations. After that ‘real event’ we were good friends. We talked and joked a lot; I had gained her confidence, the magic tights building social bridges between humans.
At the same evening after the rehearsals my actor colleague, Mrs G., invited me for a beer to her place. At some point I told her and her husband, Mr. K., about the incident and the costume lady’s reaction. We had a good laugh. Mrs G. made the note that her husband hadn’t ever tried a pair of tights. I told them about the advantages of wearing tights, for example during wintertime instead of long johns. I am not sure if my propaganda had the expected effect on the male listener.
A week ago my wife and I joined a wedding party.
At the dinner table every guest had their own specific place equipped with an individual Viivi and Wagner comic strip (Viivi and Wagner, designed by Juba and released for example in the largest daily Helsingin Sanomat, is one of the most popular domestic comics, see: http://www.
viivijawagner.net/).
The characters, the couple consists of Viivi, a young emancipated female and Wagner, a typical man pig.
My wife, Mrs Kaj, was chosen a strip which was very apt to her role as a tights enthusiast's wife. The strip gained a lot of laughs and lively comments among the guests.
Here is the translation:
Wagner: Sexy nylons, yum-yum!
Viivi: I am not an object.
Wagner: Yes, you are.
Viivi: Wagner, get away from there!!
Wagner: Hot tights!
If you would like to comment on this entry, please click on the 'Comments' link below.
Thank you for giving us this account, Kaj. Your English is excellent!
Hi Geraden and others,
geraden-sorry to hear your family opposes. my husband has worn for 40 years
and has always felt welcome in his families homes. our fathers accepted and
our mothers supported. he attends my exercise class, bridge game and book
club with ease. he always wore dark shades to hide hair and recently shaved
so as to wear light stockings. he has no problems with my lady friends and
they have adopted him as one of the girls, with out being a sissy. don't
give up........
i live in rural new york with jim and 2 daughters 32/36 single/divorced.
both daughters support jim's hosiery wearing and often buy gifts for him.
lately the girls have tired of his wearing mens shorts around the house and
have taken the step to openly push him to dress in a more acceptable way
when lounging and when my friends come around. for lounging they bought a
light summer skirt for around house and a skort when my lady friends stop
by. jim is ok with it and the girls are happy with a more presentable
father.
Hi Judy
geraden-glad to comment, only wish more families would write to support and
encourage others. my daughters don't have a problem with shorts, jim
wears old and worn shorts which look bad when others are dressed. the girls
just want him to look presentable around house and have encouraged him to
wear a skirt, just as they do. the skort was suggested for card games and
book club, the ladies always are dressed and the girls thought it would be
nice to fit in. his old shorts are too short when wearing
tights,pantyhose,or stockings: the welts show along with a garter at times.
Dear Judy, I was happy to read your notes and request for comments. I am
happily married to a man who has worn nylons for over 35 years. We have
never felt odd when he has worn around family and friends. He does not wear
in public, other than walks in park. Other men don't notice or care, and
women will glance and wink or nod their heads in support. Yes, there have
been giggles from young girls, but not much . He wears pattern tights,
pantyhose, and used to wear nylons in the bad old girdle days, but that is
for an other comment. I was sorry to read the comments from other men whose
families did not fully accept their male members who wore nylons.........
millie had a chance to ask jim about his reasons and to rethink mine
regarding legwear. i first met him in 1963 in ballet class, and i was used
to seeing him in tights. we married in 1965 and his around the house wear
was normal, but i was uncertain if there might be a fetish below the
surface and i encouraged him to wear more often, thinking they would be
soon seen as normal clothing. i placed tights and stockings in his drawer
and gave him my older girdles, i found no unusual reaction from him and he
continued to wear around house and to ballet class. we both changed to
pantyhose in 1969 and he has never worn to attract attention to his legs
only for comfort. this blog is a godsend for women who are confused about
men who wear pantyhose, and for men who want there families to accept
their pantyhose wear as nothing more than a clothing choice and not a
fetish.
Judy- My experience was not so easy:no ballet, medical,sports, or work
reasons. After one year of marriage i found a pair of nylons in his work
shop and suspected the worst, I had no one to talk to and was confused
andscared. He was an only child and was close to his widowed mother. I
finally sat down with her and revealed my discovery and told her my old
panty girdle was missing. She had always suspected but never confronted
him. We agreed to go shopping and bring him along for dinner afterwards.
While shopping I asked him if he needed anything since his clothing was
outdated and I did not care what he got. His mother said he should try
support hose for hunting and he was all for it. In an hour he had all the
nylons,girdles and garterbelts he needed and was telling us how he always
admired womens legwear. We soon found ourselves talking in an open way
about his likes and dislikes,often times going to his mothers house for
dinner with him in his nylons and shorts. more later.........
My brother recently told me of his pantyhose desire and we had a long talk,
I searched the net and found many fetish pages, the is the only page I
could find with a honest approach. My brother is staring to read and has
been more open to me .
I was surprised at first and had a hard time thinking of men in fishnets
but I have been slowly changing my tune.
men in fishnets is not wearing for comfort or to coverup, it is to enhance
the legs and to attract attention. i suggest you buy him a skirt and bra,
then teach him makeup and hair care. this is a page for understanding ,
not exhibition.
OK, enough is enough. I am not sure what is going on here, or why, but I am
well aware that Judy, Millie and Bea share the same IP address.
I love tights as a guy, but am against womens tights, I think mans tights
are best for men, so I dot wear toupe colors or pantyhose. I tend to wear
black lycra mostly, or white sometimes, but never thin pantyhose nylon. Me
have a lot of tights options in the ballet world. Those guys wear a lot of
tights, but also never wear womens tights. Let them be a good example of
how to do it. They have lots of man tights to choose from. I think men in
fashion should also choose from that.
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