Thoughts

by Andy

This arrived in my in-box recently, and I am happy to post it as a guest contribution. There is a lot of sense here. There is really no need for people to get worked up about this issue, but quite often they do. But, if people did not have to cope with other people getting worked up there would be no need for this blog! - Geraden

So this is my first posting here, I have read pretty much all the messages on here over the past year or so, and have tried to understand where each individual is coming from with relation to "men wearing tights".

My story echoes many others on here in relation to wearing tights and wanting to wear freely and openly in public. Since I was about 3 yrs old I have known I wanted to wear tights and indeed enjoyed seeing women wear tights also; to me they are the ultimate in legwear accessory, much more comfortable than socks and boxer shorts, and in today's climate (largely due to better technology in manufacturing hosiery) they are more practical also.

Human beings are incredibly complex at the best of times, so many different views and opinions on literally anything you can think of. "Men wearing tights" is no different: there will always be individuals from both sexes that view tights on men as wrong and there should be no place in the world for it, and others who will take the view that men should be able to wear tights if they wish. I think that no matter how many blogs are set up, explaining why men should wear tights will make any difference to the people on this planet who view men in tights as wrong, these people simply do not associate with that activity, whether "fetish" or "sexuality" is part of the reason for wearing or not.

I have read many stories and comments that if the male tights wearers of this world were all seen out in public wearing more often then it would become more acceptable, perhaps on the face of it this would be true, but then I'm not so sure. You see most people who are close minded to male hosiery wearing are by their very nature close minded people in general, they have their views on everything in the world and nobody else is going to persuade them otherwise.

It all comes down to people's personality, we are creatures of habit and as such we tend to stay with what we know, and what we know today, through social circumstances, is that largely it's not acceptable for men to wear tights. It does not matter that originally tights as a garment were invented and designed for men and the fact is women in a way stole them from us and claimed them for themselves, again the social circumstances from now and then have changed dramatically.

We live in a Material world and as such the majority of people are more "shallow" for it, we place value and importance in what is socially acceptable and what is considered ok by the masses before what is actually more acceptable to ourselves as individuals; there are of course the minority that walk against the current, but then look at the social stigma attached to them for doing so. Transvestites, cross-dressers alike face these circumstances on a daily basis, some have the strength of character to ignore the negative gestures and comments displayed to them, others do not and hide their dressing and shy away from being more open about who they are ... why, because they simply don't have the strength to fight the masses on the difference of opinion that exists.

The simple fact is, we are all different and there never has been "the correct" way to dress or act, only the correct attitude to the world we live in and the people we share it with, this is the "problem" here, many people have the wrong attitude and as such many problems in our world (that are not really problems) exist, one of them being men wanting to wear tights.

It's the attitudes of others that make this a problem, not the men who wear themselves.

Wear what you like I say, male or female, it makes no difference, if someone is going to judge you for what you are wearing without ever having spoken a word to you, then they are not worth knowing in the first place, it's the attitudes and values of society that need to be changed in the first place, until this happens nothing that is in its minority will ever really be accepted.

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