Pleasure or ridicule
One thing my wife said to me recently, regarding the fact that I normally wear tights, was this: "The pleasure you get from wearing tights must be greater than all the ridicule you get from wearing them!"
That set me thinking. The pleasure I get from wearing tights? What does that mean? I guess people think that I get turned on by wearing tights. Well, that might have been true once, but when you have been wearing every day for 20 years it does not work like that.
For me the 'pleasure' of wearing tights is (in no particular order):
- warmth and comfort
- feel of something silky against the skin
- support for leg muscles and avoidance of cramps
- wearing what I like to wear
None of those are specifically sexual factors, though they are all sensual. I suppose everyone has favourite fabrics. My wife loves 100% cotton and hates man-made fibres. To me, cotton is fine, but I hate wool against the skin, and I don't really like silk much either, but what I really like is nylon with lycra.
The other side of the equation: the ridicule I get from wearing them? I have been out in shorts with tights, either sheers or opaques, and been seen by hundreds of people. Most of them do not even notice. The number of strangers who have said anything to me, or in my hearing, about it is precisely zero. The only acquaintance who did make a comment was interested rather than put off by it: I was wearing opqaue tights one evening when she called, and she asked me why. I gave her the main reason on that particular occasion, which was that I had been wearing them outside while gardening, to keep the blood-sucking midges off my legs.
My youngest child follows my wife's lead and says it is weird for a man to wear tights. The next one up refuses to be drawn into the discussion. The two oldest are cool about it and so are their husband / boyfriend. So where is all this ridicule? In general people keep their opinions to themselves. The only thing that hurts is lack of understanding from close family members.
So neither the pleasure nor the ridicule is what it might appear to be.
Hi Geraden
I'm interested to know how you responded to what your wife said.
Was she referring to her own attempts to ridicule you?, or has she witnessed somebody else's reaction to you?
I feel, as you obviously do, that tights are, or at least should be, just another garment. I have no sexual attachment to them either, although I do acknowledge their sensual appeal.
Unfortunately though, the inextricable link between the nylon clad leg and the sex industry is always going to create an unhelpful image in the minds of the majority that will be a hurdle we will probably always find ourselves coming across.
'KBO', as Winston liked to say, although I'm not sure he'd have supported our cause...
Ade
Hi Ade
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.
I never thought that my wife was referring to her own attempts to ridicule me. She would not stoop so low as to do that, thought she does try from time to time to make me feel bad about wearing.
All I said was that I had never had any reaction, let alone ridicule, from anyone.
She then went on to tell me about all the people we know who may possibly think my wearing tights is 'weird'. Well, they are entitled to their own opinions, but none of them has ever said anything about the subject to me.
She then referred to a day on the beach two or three years ago when I had been wearing a one piece unisex swimsuit and some youths walking past had called me a 'tranny'.
If that is the best that she could come up with, it rather proves my point, I thought.
Geraden
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