Brown opaques

Congratulations, Geraden! A nice shot. Your Wife probably gave you one of the best Christmas presents, although you received it slightly too late.

Dark brown is one of my favourite colours.

Once upon a time my wife belonged to those who found tights uncomfortable; maybe it was more an attitude than a real experience. But over the years tights have become more functional and comfortable, and people change, and my wife's attitude, too. Fortunately.

Hi Kaj

Thanks for your comment. Yes it was a good Christmas present! But today my wife was back in her usual trackie bottoms (she is a PE teacher by profession).

However the tights are now laid out with her skirt on the bed, so there is some hope that she may wear them again.

I am glad your wife has learned that hosiery can be enjoyable to wear.

Geraden

Hi Geraden. :)

I love your introduction. I honestly began to wonder if you did wear skirts. I seem to recall you saying that you didn't. So, you can imagine what my poor brain was doing when trying figure it out! :D

My questions for the sake of advice to me is why didn't she answer and how do you feel about it when people don't answer you? I ask because I hate it when people don't answer me. Maybe I need to be more understanding, but I doubt it. What say you?

-- Sincerely, and with thanks, Eugene T.S. Wong

Hi Eugene

Interesting question. I asked my wife whether the feel of the brown opaques gripping her legs was a good thing or a bad thing, and she did not answer. I did not press the question, so I do not know what her answer would have been or why she did not answer the first time. But I can hazard a guess which will cover both those points.

If she had thought the slight compression on her legs was a bad thing she would have said so. That would fit with her policy of pointing out all the negative things she can about tights. So I guess that she found the sensation less unpleasant that she thought it would be. Maybe they made her legs feel better. And maybe she thought, as I do, that they made her legs look pretty good too! Admitting as much might be a different thing, though. She has not worn them again yet, but I live in hope. There are plenty more where those came from, and fortunately mine fit her well.

Geraden

Hi again, Geraden.

Hmm, I'm honestly at a loss at trying to figure out whether silence is a sign of a successful interaction or not. In my own life, I don't seem to get the responses that I want, even though I try to show people gently what to do. I suspect that it isn't really my method that is causing problems. It's my overall goal, and its implications. I don't think that these people like the idea of me changing them, no matter how nicely I put it. :) Perhaps to your wife and the people that I interact with, they feel that they have lost the battle and war, and feel humiliated. Maybe I should start taking silence as a sign that the conversation is over, and that I've milked it for what it's worth. I don't want to push people too hard.

It's tough to be recognized as the go-to-person for people.

Thanks for your response.

-- Sincerely, and with thanks, Eugene T.S. Wong

Hello Geraden, Terrific site... Keep up the wonderful work. Happy and healthy New Year to all.

I have a hunch that Mrs. G. did like the brown tights.

I think the non-answer is due to not wanting to loose face. Not a hard concept to explain, but basically someone whom said "I don't like tights" all their lives is not going to admit to liking tights after one wear.

One does not gain a taste for shrimps after one taste, after having detested them all their lives. It takes time (a lot of it) for people to change.

I think you are on the right track. All the best.

Me_PH_Positive

Hi Me_PH

Happy New Year to you too, and thanks for your comments.

I would not go so far as to say that Mrs G liked the tights. Maybe just that she disliked them less than she thought she would. Besides which, I can assure you she had my attention all the time she was wearing them!

One thing I have learned in human relationships, and that is if you want someone to change their decision or attitude or opinion, you must always give them the chance to save face!

Geraden

It is funny to see people from other places in the world that have such similar situations as me. I loved this comment as it hits close to home for me.

Welcome to my blog, Mike. Maybe you would like to share some of your experiences with us?

Geraden